As much as I want to brag about how he put so much time and effort in this project, or how much of a labor of love this is, the bigger question in my head is how he thinks of these things. Every year, may it be Christmas, my birthday, or our anniversary, he always gives me gifts I never would have guessed.
Yes, the watch and bags, I love (soooo much haha).
But the creative ones, I definitely cherish. There's something about it that makes me feel that I've been thought about. A lot. And that's an amazing feeling to feel from the person you're most crazy about, okay? :))
In the three years that we've been together, here are two things I learned about Josh:
He listens.
And not just that, he remembers. There's a big difference between hearing and listening, and he's definitely a listener.
The first bag he gave me was a Charles and Keith bag and I remember him saying to me his process in choosing this - it should have a long and short handle, it should have a flat base. I'm like, when did I ever tell you that? Apparently, it was when he accompanied me to a job interview (which I guess was around January 2011) wherein I was also able to mention the said brand. But do take note that we weren't even together yeeeeet. He was just courting me at that time and he remembered! You see, he wasn't spending time with me just to show off and set his best foot forward, he was really courting me, to really get to know me. It's so nice to realize this. To feel that he genuinely wanted to form a friendship.
Another proof is this time he gave me a label maker. I couldn't even begin to explain how kilig this gift got me, and I guess it says it all in the post. I do not remember a time when I requested, or explicitly told him I wanted one. He was able to rightfully get me one because he listened. He was able to connect and maybe conclude that I would be the type who will love and greatly appreciate something like this.
He is intentional.
He never buys me preset bouquets of flowers. Don't get me wrong. There's nothing wrong with that. I just know that he doesn't do so because he thinks about me, our season, etc. whenever he does get me a bouquet.
He is very intentional with everything he gets me. He will never get me something generic. He gives me something because it's me, or it's us, and definitely not just because it's a trending topic at that time.
All other gifts and surprises revolved around these two.
I flipped out when I opened this box of sharpies. Only those who know me so well will get how this makes me happy. And yes, I guess he knows me oh so well.
There was this time when he went to my house straight from the grocery store with a bunch of ingredients. He's cooking merienda! Even small everyday surprises are made extra special when I know he puts thought into it. He could have brought me a cake, or we could have food delivered, but no. He was going to make me bacon pancakes because that's the best thing in the world for me at that time :))
To girls out there, God has His best for you. Do not settle for someone who needs you to prove that he is a man. Wait for someone who will man up to deserve someone like you, and love you the way you deserve to be loved. I guess what I'm really trying to say is this - Josh gets to know me first so that he could love me the way I deserve, not try to give me what he thinks I deserve so he could prove that he loves me.
I guess that's the same with our love for God. We know who He is and what He has done, that's why we are compelled to give Him nothing less than what He deserves, a life of devotion and obedience. There is no need to try to show off good deeds, or keep track of how many times we obeyed, to show that we deserve to be saved, to prove that we deserve a slot in heaven.
With Josh, I don't need to demand time, effort, or anything from him because I'm secure in his love. His actions are the fruits or the overflow of his love for me. I never felt that I still had to wait for the love to be seen or felt.
Last thing is that even if Josh is sooooo good in giving gifts, I still fail miserably at it. I'm the one who is always never confident in my gifts or any of my DIY ideas that I end up with the generic ones. Always. But even if our gift giving skills are miles apart, he never made feel smaller or worse (than I already was hahaha). And yes, he still continues to give me all these surprises, getting better at it every time. And I guess that is also how it is to be loved by Jesus. Selfless and not expecting anything in return.
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